Sunday, October 3, 2010

personal news shared impersonally


imagine this...


you're a pretty good friend of mine. we've known each other for almost 20 years. and you find out i'm engaged at the same time my 950 friends on facebook do?

i wonder if my parents would mind if i told them about my engagement via text?

how about if i asked you to be part of my bridal party through twitter?

or...

how about if i was pregnant? would you care that i was expecting and only found out when i updated my status on facebook?

our twenty years of friendship lumped together with people
i may have only worked with for less than a year... people who i may have only seen less than a handful of times... people i may never see again in person for the rest of my life... you're grouped in together with all of them.

call me old fashion, but that information about me i consider very personal, very important - they're one of the very few milestones i'll ever experience in my life... that information is very near and dear to my heart and I DON'T WANT ALL 950 facebook friends to know about it at the same time my family and close friends find out about it.

i really believe my very good friends and family deserve better than that.

maybe you don't agree with me. and that's fine. we're all entitled to our own opinions. i just think those people who have been there for me my whole life and who will forever be there for me, deserve at least a phone call when i share with them some of the greatest news of my life.

5 comments:

reni said...

agreed! i think sometimes people overdo facebook, twitter, text messaging, etc. i once had a teacher text her resignation two hours before her start time. WTF.

Maureen said...

What-the-eff?!! That's f*cked!

Anonymous said...

i know, right?!

Leesh said...

I totally agree with you on this one. I am so sick and tired of people announcing life's milestones on social media. What happen to the good old days of mailing out announcements or personal phone calls to share exciting news? I guess all this technology is catching up to us, leaving us to communicate without actually even speaking to each other. It's pretty sad in my opinion. I blog, I tweet, I text, I email but no matter what, I will always deliver news personally. It's the least I can do this day in age.

For the next milestones in my life, I am bringing it back old school and sending out a handmade announcement.

Maureen said...

Leesh: yay! take it back old school! BOOYAH!